Do you create some of your own stress????? Do you think that all of your problems are caused by outside factors: my parents; spouse; kids; friends; colleagues; money: work etc? Guess what most often they are caused/created by ourselves? Why does one event send you into stress out melt down and not even bother someone else? Is our personality a factor? Can we all be guilty at times of creating our own stress??? Now is the time to be honest with ourselves……. Time for some soul searching questions…….
Let’s look at our life in 3 areas and see how we stack up:
Health: Do you look after your health or do you eat on the run, eat the wrong foods , rely on addictions to get you through e.g. alcohol, nicotine, drugs, food, shopping? Do you make time for some sort of exercise in your life?
Life in General: do you: take too much on; create or get in the middle of dramas; say yes to favours/functions when you really do not have time to fit them in; do you run late for everything; do you try to fit too many activities into an already hectic schedule? Do you have clutter in your life? Do you take on others worries? Are you running around trying to put out little fires everywhere but achieving nothing?
Work: At work are you a worrier, are you unorganized and carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. Do you procrastinate and then complain about your workload? Are you involved in workplace politics? Are you being productive?
Take a step back and try looking at your life from the outside……..can you see that some of your stresses are created by you????So what can we do to reduce stress and lighten that heavy load that we seem to put on our own shoulders? Okay, so now that we know that we can cause some of our own stress or make our small worries turn into a bigger stress, how can we change?
Health….believe it or not looking after yourself can massively reduce stress. Getting enough sleep, eating healthily, getting some form of exercise are great ways to build up your immune system and your coping system. Have a look at your health…can this area of your life be improved?
Life in General…..the three R’s might help:
Reality: get real about your stress. Is it even your issue that you are stressing about? Is it really worth affecting your health over? Are you blowing things out of proportion? If you had to rate it on a catastrophe scale 1. Being something small and 10. Being something tragic…….where does your problem lay….is it really worth affecting your health over. Either do something about the cause or let it go….Confront it/take steps to resolve it or forgive/let go and move on from it. Keep things in perspective. When you stress your body can not differentiate between a really dangerous threat and you going berserk because your dog ate your favourite shoes. Too much stress affects our health. Get real about the issue.
Resilience: We all have ways to manage and cope with our stress. See my post titled “Coping Skills” under the stress heading for some tips.
Right now: live in the right now….don’t stew over the past and don’t fret about the future.
Work……all of our jobs are different so it is hard to give suggestions for this but some general tips may help……Have a positive attitude to your job…..remember it pays your bills, make a list of things about your job that you are grateful for, address any problems that can be fixed, get organized, make lists, prioritize your tasks, set goals and tick them off, tidy up..Are you surrounded by clutter, and if you have too much on your plate delegate. Stay away from workplace politics and gossip and lastly use your work time effectively so that when you go home you can shut off from work.
My question to you today is….Have you been able to identify some areas in your life where you can reduce your stress levels????? I would love to hear from you?????