I read somewhere that we spend the first half of our lives being conditioned and the second half of our life trying to undo that conditioning???? The first half goes like this….do this, do that, don’t be loud, don’t be shy, don’t wear that, you need to change, you shouldn’t look like that, you can’t do that, it is wrong to think that, you must fit in, you should do this job…blah, blah, blah. We learn to fit into the family, the school, the social cliques, the workplace etc. We actually learn to lose ourselves into a miss mash of what others expect. But guess what? Who says that a bunch of outsiders know us better than we know ourselves???
I am sooooooo grateful to be in the second half of my life and the half that I get to re-find and define ME! Somehow in my 40’s I have decided that to be happy I must be true to me. This started out on a very shaky ground…I had no freaking idea of who I was and what I even liked. Someone asked me, when our kids were little, what I would do if I had an entire weekend all to myself and I could only think of sleep….I had no idea of where to start…what would I like to do? What do I like? Where would I even begin? So I decided to make a list of things I liked….I even had to think about what my favourite colour was… I was so out of touch with myself. I am slowly but surely, learning day by day to get to know me…..I have never been happier. Oh I have crap days like everyone…no one is perfect or has a perfect life. But I now know that as I walk through this life, if I stay on MY path, make choices that make ME feel good, do what I like, than I am surely being me….and that is exactly who I want and who I am meant to be. If I could speak to me as a 14-year-old I would share this lesson with myself daily……luckily for me I have a 14-year-old daughter who I can try to teach this to. Be yourself, make decisions and choices that FEEL right, learn who you are, learn what you like and live each day with love for yourself and others.
My quest for you this week is to make a list of things that you like….just write/think for 5 minutes and see what you come up with. I would love for you to share with us 10 things from your list?????? P.S this is your list….no family/work/friends stuff on this list…just things about you!
Here are 10 of my things….just to get you started:
Chocolate; walking in nature; being kind and seeing kindness; the country; the colour green; green tea with mint; laughing; showers; singing in the car; rocking out to loud music at home alone………… see not hard….please share with us 10 things off your list???????Love to hear from you.