Do you often feel like you are juggling glass balls….pushed and pulled in 50 different directions? Or do you just feel like you don’t get time to do what you enjoy and love? We are often told that balance is the key to a happy and healthy life…… but for many of us our life is completely out of whack. Let’s face it……life gets busy and it can be so hard to find that mysterious “balance”.
Do your core values in life align with your actions? I think that one of the top tips in finding balance is to align your true core values with your actions. You may say that family comes first when in fact your actions show that your work take s up most of your time? Do you say that your health is in your top values but in fact spending little time on your health? Do you say that money is not that important but spend a lot of time talking about it and trying to figure out how to get more of it?
If I asked you what your top 5 values in life what would they be? I would say some fairly common top 5’s would be: self, family, health, happiness; social; work; education; travel; faith etc. Now spend some time to honestly see where you spend most of your time? Are your values and your actions out of balance?
Some tips to get your life balance back:
- Make a list of your top values and align them with your actions. Spend more time doing what is important and less time on what is not.
- I would have to suggest that most people would rate their health in their top values but many would not spend enough thought or time improving their health. What can you do to change this? Remember if you are thinking “But I don’t have time” then you are not living by your values and this can create unease and disease.
- Many people are becoming consumed with being “plugged in”. On their phone; computers, online movies etc. Take a look on how much time you spend plugged in and ask yourself if this aligns with your values? I think these days many people would spend far too much time plugged in.
- Do you make time for yourself? I am hoping that you put “yourself” in your top values but most of us do very little to nurture ourselves. We only have one us, so we must look after ourselves. Nurture your body, mind and spirit and you will reap the benefits.
- Only say yes to things that are aligned with your values. If you are asked to look after friends children but are tired and stressed and need some “me” time, say NO! On the opposite side why not say YES to things that do align with your values? If you are asked for a coffee, walk or a meal with a friend or family…why not make the time?
- Take time to reflect on how much time you put into relationships that you say matter the most….how would you rate? Does this area of your life need more attention?
- Where do you sit on the happiness scale? Do you need to make some changes?
Sometimes we need to take a long hard look in the mirror and see how we are tracking? I would suggest if we are stressed, unhappy, frazzled, tired and just downright grumpy that our life is out of balance. What can you do to even out your life balance scales?