Do you have rules for yourself or for others that dont do you or them any justice? Do these rules sometimes give you grief and make you judgmental,critical and down right hard to please?
Where did these rules come from? Who made them the law and who says that they are right? The older I get the more I understand that everyone’s road to happiness is different and that sometimes our self made rules can be road blocks to our happiness. There is no one size fits all rule book. My guess is that most of our rules have grown up with us. These rule have been handed to us by well meaning relatives, teachers, coaches, colleagues, ourselves, friends and the like. Some of the self imposed are: you must always be busy; you mustn’t show emotions, you must look a certain way, you must like certain things to be cool, you must do a certain job, you must believe in this or not believe in that etc. As I have matured I have realised apart from actual law, there are no rules. I no longer want to impose my beliefs on others and I no longer want to make rules for others or myself. I want to be open to change my beliefs and to grow and learn. I realise that for my happiness, all of the old rules need to be archived and I need to move on. Do you need to look at some of your self imposed rules that dont nurture or support you and make some changes? “Break the rules, find your freedom and live your life” Akash Kotagiri