How do you communicate? Are you happy with how you interact with others and how they interact with you? Can you go to sleep at night feeling that you have acted within your values, in kindness and in fairness to others?
All too often these days we see people who are not acting in a positive way. Whether it be on social media, to a shop assistant or to a family member – we see disrespect and negativity and this makes me sad to see how we can treat others.
Why do people act in this way? Is it ego, to win, to make a point, notoriety, to create chaos or just a lack of understanding?? I am am sure it is different for different people, but I wonder how they can feel good and happy about themselves in the aftermath.
We can choose how we communicate and if we choose in line with our values then I am sure the world would be a happier and kinder place. We can choose to:
- React – quickly respond with emotion, lack of facts and to make a point. This generally ends in pain and feeling bad about it later.
- Respond – consider a response, consider the other persons position and act in kindness. Really put thought into your words. Your words can be positive and nurturing or they can poison and hurtful. Know the power of your words and dont use your words to have power over others.
- Refrain – Remember the old adage “if you don’t have something nice to say dont say anything”. Sometimes it is best to leave it. You know the truth and making a point will not always help. Generally when you act in anger or negativity you will feel bad about it later. I am not on any other form of social media but hear from friends, colleagues and on the media about the trolls and hate that some people speak with and it baffles me.
If the words you spoke (or typed) were tattooed on your skin, would you be beautiful?