There is always an ongoing debate about who and who should not be our role models. Should celebrities and sports stars be forced into this role or should they be able to opt out and do as they please? Are the Miley Cyrus’s and the Justin Beiber’s of the world role models or not?
This question is redundant, whether we like it or not we are all role models and we are all teachers. Whether we realise it or not, our every action and reaction is being observed and with every choice we make we are teaching those around us what we believe is okay for us and for them.
Every day each of us are teaching and each of us are learning.
When you think of yourself as a role model, how do you fair? Are you talking the talk but not walking the walk. Do you say one thing but act in another way? Are you a hypocrite? Remember actions speak louder than words, so merely paying lip service to the “right way” is nowhere near good enough.
If you are a parent would you cringe at some of the things your children see you do? Children are like sponges and believe me they see and hear more than we would ever know. We as parents are without a doubt their greatest educators. It is ironic that we expect school teachers to be “perfect role models”, to say and do the right thing 100% of the time, but many of us don’t have the same ideals for ourselves and what we are teaching our young. Think about this next time you are drinking too much, gossiping, arguing, road raging or any other negative behaviour that your children are witness to. Would you be happy if your children turn out “just like you”?
Would your workplace colleagues look up to you or shake their heads at some of your workplace ethics? Do you inspire others in some way or do you believe that your words and actions don’t really matter? Thinks about this next time you’re late to work, are gossiping about fellow workers, being slack or just being negative about work. Can you ask for respect from colleagues without acting respectfully?
If I were to ask those around you what sort of role model you were, what would they say? Would their comments be positive and uplifting or would they be struggling to answer? Is it okay to expect more from others than you expect from yourself?
Do you need to change your actions/words or both to be a better role model? Do you realise that you are a role model?